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> Biggest regrets
umustwait101
  Posted: Dec 21 2018, 06:31 PM


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If there was one thing in your life you regretted and could do over, what would it be?

Has to be something you actually had a chance of changing the outcome to. So, things like being born a woman, picking the next lottery ticket, etc. are out.

To get everyone's noggins thinking, if I were to answer this question, I wouldn't actually have an answer. For me, with just about everything that has happened in my life so far, while I may not like the outcome, but given a chance to do it over, I would probably do exactly the same thing.

And having said that, I'm about to confess to the girl I like and have been seeing for almost half a year now. I let you all know if that turns out to be my biggest regret.

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Posted: Dec 21 2018, 09:55 PM


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so far mine has been related to my grand mother. when she was in hospital for the last 3 weeks she was around. i only saw her once and couldn't really find what to say or do too much. it was a first for me but i also had the opportunity to see her a week later and decided to turn it down thinking she'd get better. a week or so later she passed on and that is one thing i doubt id forget.
umustwait101
  Posted: Dec 22 2018, 05:33 AM


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QUOTE (207 @ 7 hours, 37 minutes ago)
so far mine has been related to my grand mother. when she was in hospital for the last 3 weeks she was around. i only saw her once and couldn't really find what to say or do too much. it was a first for me but i also had the opportunity to see her a week later and decided to turn it down thinking she'd get better. a week or so later she passed on and that is one thing i doubt id forget.

You know what, don't beat yourself up. I, too, had an opportunity to see my friend a week before he had a brain aneurysm and died. I wouldn't have ever thought he would die so suddenly.

Then, there was an older lady who was dying from cancer. My brother and I went to visit her, but we couldn't really find much to say neither. It didn't click, until I was leaving, that that might've been the last time I would be able to converse with her. Turns out, it was.

With my own grandma, she also died one sunny morning. Just ate breakfast, my mom helped her into bed, and that was that. I was at work when it happened. Though, my grandma had Alzheimers, and couldn't even really talk anymore, in hindsight, I would've wanted to spend more time with her. She always had a huge smile whenever she saw me, though she always mistook me for someone else - first, it was her son, then her brother, then her dad or uncle. It was actually pretty sad, watching her go back in time.

Finally, just a week ago, my other friend who has 4th stage cancer celebrated his, probably, last birthday. It was a huge party. I didn't really even get to talk to him much. Also regret not spending more time with him, because I ended up getting drunk and just talking with random people.

There's a quote from the Great Gatsby that comes back every now and then: at the end of the book, the protagonist asks this man about the Great Gatsby, and the man says that he tries to do as much for the person while the person is alive. After the person dies, he forgets about that person. While it may seem cold, it does makes sense. A person can only receive or appreciate what you do for him or her when he or she is alive. So, when they are alive is when it is time to be nice. When they pass on, then at that point, it doesn't really matter what you do. Though you may beat yourself up, it's probably best to just move on.
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Posted: Dec 22 2018, 11:02 AM


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QUOTE (207 @ Today, 1:55 AM)
so far mine has been related to my grand mother. when she was in hospital for the last 3 weeks she was around. i only saw her once and couldn't really find what to say or do too much. it was a first for me but i also had the opportunity to see her a week later and decided to turn it down thinking she'd get better. a week or so later she passed on and that is one thing i doubt id forget.

My grandmother was in and out of the hospital from health complications in the last year of her life, not helped much by doctors that didn't want to anecdotally treat her as an individual case and instead trying to generalize her symptoms and herself. Her last month or so was spent at home where she was on the recovery path and doing much better than she had ever been in the past year, until one day she had breathing troubles and died from heart failure as a result.

About a month from that day, I was watching the third episode of the Kancolle anime where one of the characters drove a point to another about "If you have something to say to someone, say it now, don't wait until tomorrow", in an episode where one of the characters got killed off at the end. I thought about that, and thought about apologizing to my grandmother for accidentally breaking one of her ceramics when I was younger.

But of course what did I do, or rather, what did I *not* do?

Anyway, I have other regrets, but it's just petty or mundane shit. Like saying there'll be a "next time" on getting Tony Hawk's autograph when he and a bunch of other pro skaters/bikers came to the local skate park, which of course never happened again. Or telling someone I loved them when they were really were just a waste of my goddamn time and energy in the end and made the whole "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved again" sound like a loser's consolation prize. Or not braving the dirty crowds of AX just to see some iM@S seiyuus that are a rare sight in North American shows.

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Posted: Dec 26 2018, 09:55 PM


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It's a big regret but I don't beat myself up with such worries. It only lasted 1 week after she passed but I still wont forget the last time i saw her though that sentiment of not having more contact still is in the background.

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Posted: Dec 30 2018, 04:23 AM


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I think the only thing to regret .. is regret itself ! sorcerer.gif 🍥

& this coming from someone that's made a lot of FLAGRANT mistakes in his life ~

Just keep looking forward & don't make those mistakes again .. and if you do .. forgive yourself & forgive those that've hurt you

Get up & keep going .. have you ever seen birds fly with their heads turned backwards ? user posted image 🕊
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